“In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, in the expert’s mind there are few.” ~ Suzuki
This newsletter was written to offer a way for you to move through thoughts, concerns, and worries toward a calmer state. Molly’s video speaks toward the parts of us, such as concern for world affairs, that detract from our work, urgent parts that distract us in an attempt to alleviate fears we have for clients. Imagine your severely restricting client and a part of you that lovingly enforces refeeding – your client may rebel. Or offering creative ways to throw off an upcoming binge. We think we are being helpful with solutions – we aren’t. Resistance, yes’ing the clinician, and dissociation are all parts clients use to deflect your ideas.
It’s helpful to sit in meditation or a quiet settling to bring forth your inner compass that’s often been hidden in our apprehension. Invite one of the 6 C’s demonstrated in the IFS model: Curiosity, Calm, Clarity, Creativity, Compassion, Courage, Connection and Confidence to fill your body and mind. In this capacity, you best serve your client and yourself.
This month’s taste of IFS Who’s Running the Show?
Molly shares here what we call ‘therapist parts.’ These get in our way in client sessions. Parts of us can block our flow, have us lead with an agenda that shuts down clients, and can get too preachy and teacher-like. She shares how to listen with care to guide clients toward clarity in their personal decisions related to food and body.